Signs that your Boo may be cheating on you.

     I am only writing from my personal experience if anyone find this post offending in anyway, "I do not apologize" (smile) lol. Now let's get started in my past relationship with my Haitian ex. I've experienced a list of things that made me suspect that he maybe cheating. I came from being a wife to being a full time private investigator. People may say, why stay in a relationship if you don't trust your partner? Or maybe I'm just being an insecure wife. 

   Being that I was so in love with him, I did not want to hear anything that anyone had to say. Because I am not a fan of rumor's especially in my personal relationship, if a rumor could not be proven there was no reason for me to believe in it. I tried to keep my relationship private as I felt at times us women do have an influence on each other. At the time I felt that every new relationship has a new beginning so cheating is not something you want to think about.  But while in the relationship I started to see him do weird things, at first I did not pay attention to it much but I started questioning my self as to why he behaved a certain way.

Signs That He May Be Up To Know Good

1)  Have you ever noticed that he steps outside or to another room when he receives an incoming call  (There would be times where he receives phone calls, walks off  enters another room or walks outside. But other times if it's his boys he does not mind having a full conversation in front of me.)

2)  Have you ever touched his phone for any reason and he comes flying to the other side of his room before you know it he takes the phone from you? (That definitely means he has something to hide, trust me if you find your self not being able to touch his phone, sleeps with the phone under his pillows, has a lock on it, red Flags all over.)

3)  If you ever had access to his phone do you realize that some or all of his calls or text messages are deleted? (I found it to be weird that a person who talks on the phone all day and text back and fourth all day have an empty inbox or outbox, red flag)

4)  If your in a long distance relationship do you notice when he travels you guys talk less? ( My ex would travel for days and sometimes 3 months at a time because he played professional soccer. There would be times that I call him and I feel that I was being rushed off the phone, what kills me the most is the fact that his phone went off at a certain time each night and I was able to talk to him like 5 minutes at a time after practice. As soon as he gets home it's difficult to reach him.

5)   Has he ever talked to you in the 3rd person? For Example: I had a guy friend of mines that was with this girl and got her pregnant while her man was away. Or maybe he cracks jokes about what his other male friends do. ( My ex absolutely told me a few of those stories and found out that it was actually him, this guy tried to played me for the total fool.)

6)  If he for any reason ever sleeps out on more that one occasion, that's a super red flag and a big No No. There should be absolutely know reason at all for you to tolerate that ( I've experienced this first hand, the first time I let it slide. But the second time I had his bags packed and ready to toss him out because there is no way in hell that I will except for any guy to use my  house as a free storage facility. My words to him where to store his clothes where ever the hell he rest his head before showing up to my house at 12noon) (That day he cursed me out but I had the last laugh because all of his friends where laughing at him as I threw his clothes in the middle of the parking lot where he hangs out. The reason I did this is because at the end of the day his friends all know who he's screwing around with, and makes us females look like nothing. I take it as a compliment when they call me the crazy lady sometimes there's no reconciling a situation like this. I find it to be the up most disrespectful thing a spouse living with you could ever do.)

7)  Has he ever gotten angrier at you when you confront him with something you have solid evidence on? I've never seen a guy more pissed off than when he get's caught in his string of lies ( When I confronted my ex-husband  about the other women he went off the wall. He told me I was crazy, he always denied it. Things got heated very quickly which led to a physical fight between us, This actually happened on three different occasions.)

8)  Have you guys ever had conversations about his infidelity, and noticed when you talk about it he does not really keep eye contact? ( One thing I learned is that it was hard for him to keep eye contact when being asked about his weird ways, of course he'll deny till he dies. You will never get the truth but you can tell my the body language. Like if the television is on he'll answer your questions but never really look you in the eye, and would use any distraction possible. For Example: His eyes focused on the television. He plays with the button on his phone while he looks down at the screen, maybe sometimes he looks up but barely make eye contact when your interrogating him.)

   So women keep your eye's open this blog was made based on my personal experience, you may have experienced things differently or maybe the same.  Please feel free to reply to this post, and share your story.