Sometimes this even turns into a spiritual warfare where the party being pursued with the child support turns to voodoo but of course I'm not going to get to that. I've seen a past friend of mines that was going through allot of issues with the father of her child. She had dealt with him for over 8 years before she became pregnant, through out her pregnancy she had to take the city bus back and fourth from work. There was a vehicle available at the time that belonged to another family member of his but he made no effort at all to help her. He felt that if he catch the bus it makes him sick and always found a way to his destination. She had to deal with him and his family member while living in the house, and tensions started to run high. After the baby was born things calmed down for a few months, they both worked. He was making more of an income than she was but he seemed to always have an excuse as to why he could not help. He became financially handicap when she needed him the most, sometimes she tried borrow and pay him back. Other problems included him cheating and spitting in her face during their last argument.
She eventually moved to her own place, never had any intentions of putting him on child support but he started to become very cocky, verbally abusive, and felt that he had the upper hand, after a heated argument. He decided to throw out all of his baby belonging that where at his house, he drove and dropped them off in front of her door steps. Things from food that where stored in his refrigerator ,clothing, car seat and even a wooden bed. He did not want to have anything to do with her so he felt that having thrown all his kids things out in front of her door steps would resolve his problems. My friend was terribly hurt by the situation and proceeded with the child support.
She did not give him the Child Support out of anger, she gave him the Child Support for not being able to support his kid when she needs him the most because he is too busy catering to other people. Like his family from Haiti, his mother who is receiving social security benefits, and his brother that is not working and occupying extra space in his apartment. He seemed to have missed his priority by a long shot which is his first and only Child. He had no concerns whether the child had new clothes or shoes, and also day care expenses. All of this was being taken cared of by one person which was the child mother.
When he finally found out that he was being served Child Support all of a sudden he wanted to get his act together. Now all of a sudden he started writing out checks bi-weekly and ventured on a straight path and tried to convince my friend to take him off Child Support. She never asked him for much she just wanted to make sure that her son was taking care of between the both of them working. But she was more upset that she had to take this action to even get him to man up.
The day after the big court date he begged and pleaded for her to take him off but she refused, he spent a week saying that he feels like he wants to kill him self and so on, but he's still alive. The once cocky guy turned into wimp crying for someone to save him. Now he wants to sign over his parental rights....which my friend also refused.
My personal opinion on all of this is that we all have to take responsibility for or own actions. If you are in a relationship with anyone and you decide not to put a cap on sh*t happens. Just learn to own up to it because this probably wont be your first and last mistake.
Recently posted on my FB status:
" Men if you slept with a female, got her pregnant, and realized that's the worst mistake you ever made in your life learn to "WRAP IT UP" stop being selfish and deal with the fact that the seed you bust in her grew and became a living being. That walks, talks, and looks like you (unfortunately) the only difference is the fact that it's worth more than you. So pay up there's an app for that it's called "Child Support"! #Lanmerd
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